And if I had a magic wand, I'd . . .

wave it and make everyone's history go away, or make history totally inconsequential.

I'm having a little problem with the harems possessed by men who have been around the block more than once. It's my problem. I own it. I'm not expecting any man over 50 to change his ways, so I've got to respect his ways or, given that every man [and woman] has a history, resign myself to living alone the rest of my life. That's not what I want, so guess I need to work on my attitude.

To me, dealing with all these histories and cadres of acquaintances is absolutely exhausting!