It Don't Mean a Thing If It Ain't Got That Zing!"

Okay, so the song title is Swing, not Zing, and it applies to jazz. But does it also apply to relationships? How important is zing, chemistry, that pitter-pat of your heart?

I've stated that when I sat down across from Mr. Match the first time, lightning struck the table. The chemistry was powerful, almost palpable. But in the long run, that didn't matter, did it?

I absolutely believe that honor and respect and kindness and thoughtfulness and decency are more important than zing, but can one have an enduring relationship without the zing, or will you feel a distinct hole in the relationship if the zing isn't there?

I have no answers, only questions.